Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Self Worth

This week we are talking about self worth! What does a journey towards self worth look like? Where are places we can find worth within ourselves? What do we have agency over in order to increase our self worth or self esteem? What is the difference between self worth, self esteem, self respect, self confidence, and dignity? Are there any others self perceptions? Are there some journey's which are easier than others? In a world that often wants to deny that alternative gender experiences even exist, how do we navigate self worth? These kind of questions and more are the things we will be tackling this week.

silly question: "what is one picture you have created, by camera or art supplies, that you would frame on your wall? Alternatively what is a social media post you would frame?"
Wednesday, February 1st, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Monday, January 23, 2017

Making Our Own Community Care Documents

There are many different reasons to write up a community care document. Maybe you are tired of people around you suggesting the same tired refrain's of "just eat well and exercise" and want to write down what kind of suggestions you are actually looking for. Maybe there is a disconnect between what needs to be done and what you can get done on your own. Maybe there are some instances when communication gets difficult and you need to have something written down already to hand a person without having to think very hard.

Whatever the case may be, we will be having a workshop to help all of us come up with a framework and rough sketch of our own community care needs. No need to share with one another if we don't want to. We will all be on our own journey's figuring out what this document will be for, who the document will be for, and what kind of stuff we should put into the document. Come with some means of taking notes (and please bring extra writing utensils if you have them. Some paper will be provided)

The silly question is: "Who is a character or universe you will often imagine yourself in?"
Wednesday, January 25th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Asking for help

Often when the world feels overwhelming and having to add even the smallest of responsibilities becomes near impossible we can forget that others might not feel this way. We forget that there might be someone out there not just willing to help, but eager to do so. We forget that our friends might have different access to resources than ourselves and might be willing to share those resources. This week we talk about asking for help. How to do so. When to do so. Strategies we may have. Let's share the insights we have learned with each other. Here will be our first step in our asking for help journey.

The silly question is: "Imagine you are being rewarded with a cool sticker. What did you do this week to get the sticker?"
Wednesday, January 11th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Being Closeted and Coming Out

Today we're going to talk about being "in the closet" and how it might and might not apply to our personal experiences. We can share how we decide whether or not it is best for us to disclose certain parts of our identity, and what informs that decision. We also can go over how refraining from disclosure can impact our professional and personal lives. 

The silly question for tonight is "What's the best hiding spot where you live?"


Wednesday,  January 4th, 7:00pm to 8:30pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Open Topic

Last week's post wasn't listed due to personal circumstances, but as was listed in the sidebar we discussed making friends. Tonight's meeting will have an open topic, and next Wednesday's meeting will be about New Year's resolutions and planning for what we'd like to see for GQC in the new year.

The silly question will be: "If you had to design a candle based on your (potential lack of) gender(s), what would it smell like?"

Wednesday,  December 21st, 7:00pm to 8:30pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Making Friends



Meeting people and making friends in the winter can be hard. Making friends, in general, can be hard. It takes practice and patience navigating and negotiating humans and intimacy of any kind. Sometimes the stakes can feel even higher when it is someone who is just a platonic friend. When do you tell a new cool person your pronouns, or do they already know them? Will work friends and queer friends mix well? Let's talk about friendships.

The silly question is: "What is a story about friendship you think about fondly?"
Wednesday,  December 7th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Winter Blues



Now it's getting to be the time of year where the sun sets in the afternoon and it's not uncommon for people to get a little wilty, some to the degree that it's Seasonal Affective Disorder. As the weather gets colder there are fewer opportunities to comfortably be outside, and snow adds an extra element of danger while traveling for those of us with mobility issues. However cold weather brings a break from some potentially stressful situations: There are very few pool parties and beach days during Chicago winter, and when we're all bundled up under 17 layers, everyone's gender presentation is "warm". Tonight we'll chatting about how we can avoid unwanted isolation, check in with ourselves about depression, and what else we need to thrive during the upcoming season.

The silly question is: "What would be in your ideal blanket fort?"
Wednesday, December 30th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

Thanksgiving Tactics

Edited to add a notice!: Helpful tips from today's discussion will be collected, de-identified, and posted on the blog and the Facebook group. Anyone has the option for their personal contribution to not be posted, at their discretion. 

Holidays are times when some of us have to interact with blood relatives who are less than supportive and sometimes flat out hostile. It's often a mix between affirming some parts of your identity while denying others, and the nuances make things complicated. Some of us live with or near them and have to navigate those relationships all year long, and some of us do not have relationships with them at all. Some questions to consider answers to for tonight's topic:


  • How and when, if at all, do you talk to someone you love if they say something that hurts you? 
  • How and when, if at all, do you talk to someone you depend on emotionally, logistically, or financially if they say something that hurts you? 
  • What does confrontation look like for you? 
  • What are some of the things that help you feel grounded during the holidays? 
  • What alternatives have you found for when being around blood relatives isn't a financial or emotional option? 
  • How do you take care of yourself after being in an emotionally escalated situation?
The Southern Poverty Law Center posted a guide to addressing possible scenarios called Speak Up: Responding to Everyday Bigotry that I feel has some good scripts to start from. There are also more specific resources and events in Chicago for talking to families with specific religious and/or cultural backgrounds.

The silly question is: What's the last thing you really looked forward to?

Next week's topic will be an open topic. In addition, there will be a small gathering at a private residence on the 24th for those of us who have been to a GQC meeting before and want somewhere to be on that day. Location is to be announced, we're still working out the accessibility of different options. For details, accessibility needs, dietary restrictions, and other questions, feel free to email us at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com or talk to a moderator at a meeting.




Wednesday, November 16th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Tuesday, November 8, 2016

TDOR and You



     First, an apology for the last two meetings not having a blog post. They were announced on the Facebook page as cancelled due to Cubs games over safety concerns, but unfortunately that was not posted here for those who don't follow the group there. Changes have been made so that topics can be announced much earlier to allow members more time to plan accordingly, and will go into effect within the week, and they will be cross-posted on both platforms

     The topic for the upcoming meeting will be focused on Transgender Day of Remembrance. Because of the emotionally charged nature of the day, the discussion will have content warnings for transphobia, transmisogyny, assault, death, murder, and suicide, as these are likely to come up in the conversation. As a reminder, one of our working agreements is "Escape Route", which allows for any member to leave the room at any point and return at any point, no questions asked, and could come especially handy should the conversation become overwhelming at any point. The actual day of TDOR is November 20th, and Center on Halsted will have an event that evening in observance.

The silly question will be "What's the oddest thing you've overheard?"


Wednesday, November 9th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Open Topic

Today we're going to have an open topic. Bring us anything interesting or important that's happened within the week, either inside or outside of the space. Let's talk about it!

Silly Question: What animal do you act like the most?

Wednesday, October 5th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

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