Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Consent

There will not be a Cubs game today, though it does look like it will rain and there are thunderstorm warnings for the general area. Tonight's meeting will be about consent: how to communicate and check in for it in different contexts. Next week there will be an ice cream social held by the Center on Halsted concurrent to our meeting. Feel free to hang out there and swing by the meeting, or meet up with some GQC folks and head there together as a group!

Wednesday, June 14th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Monday, June 5, 2017

Self Advocacy

How do you assert yourself if you are still figuring out your gender? What do you even assert? How do we frame our unique experience in a constructive way, meaning that we aren't simply basing our gender on what we are not? Or do we assert what we are not and let the world figure it out? Self Advocacy. What the heck does that even mean in a genderqueer/nonbinary/gender nonconforming context? And how do we access it when many of us struggle with mental health issues?

Let's talk about it!

Silly question of the day will be: What is the best introduction to a person you've ever made or received?

Wednesday, June 7th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Boundaries, Part 2 + The Agenda for the Rest of April

Last week we had such a rich discussion that we decided to continue the topic through this week!

Coming up next:

April 19th - Open Topic: We talk about whatever comes up! On open topic days we also like to acknowledge the birthdays of members during that month. If you let the moderator know, you'll receive a nifty gift bag.

April 26th - Autism Acceptance Month: We have a number of members who identify as being on the autism spectrum, so it'd be neat to chat about how autism can affect all of our experiences, and what it looks like to be and/or interact with autistic people as we explore gender. For people who are not familiar with autism, a good organization to check out is the Autistic Self Advocacy Network. Rebecca Burgess created a comic that addresses perceptions around the "spectrum" part of autism spectrum. As there is "cisgender" to describe people who are not "transgender", the term "neurotypical"(NT)  emerged from within the autism community to describe people who are not autistic. This has later expanded to include others who do not neurologically develop in a typical way, such as people with AD/HD and/or dyslexia with the term "neurodivergent". Lydia XZ Brown has written on the experience of being "gendervague", a term that addresses a "neurodivergent experience of trans/gender identity".




Wednesday, April 12th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Boundaries

We learn about a lot of different boundaries as we grow up. Bodily boundaries, financial boundaries, emotional boundaries, time boundaries, many others. This awareness of boundaries can often be heightened and often more confusing when we add gender into the mix. Boundaries are assumed, neglected, twisted, or otherwise disrespected. Let's talk about boundaries. How do we set boundaries? With others? With ourselves? With our work? With our family? What makes a good boundary? Have your boundaries change over time? What has stayed the same?

All this and more! Come hang out!

Silly Question: What are you most excited for now that it is spring?
Wednesday, April 5th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Isolation

A black and white charcoal drawing of a shadowy figure in a dark room facing a window frame. The other side of the window is much brighter.

There's a difference between being alone, and being lonely. Sometimes gender, both as experienced and as perceived can affect what opportunities we have to be social and what it looks like when we do. Tonight we are going to chat about how to find (or make) those opportunities and reduce isolation. Some questions to consider:
What are times when you are surrounded by people but still feel lonely?
How much social interaction do you need to thrive, and what does that look like?
What are some things people do (or you wish they did) that make you feel included?
How do you know when you are a welcome part of a group?

The silly question will be: "Without explanation, what's your favorite nickname?"
Wednesday, March 8th, 7:00pm to 9 pm 
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.

Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Thursday, March 2, 2017

Trans Figures in Entertainment

For the past few weeks we have been focusing on public figures or pieces of media who go and say bigoted things while creating content of some sort that we appreciate in other ways. Let's instead shift our focus to the media created by and for trans people and queer people. In this month containing Trans Day of Visibility, who is visible? Who is able to be visible? Who do we appreciate being visible? What media reflects ourselves? What doesn't? Whose voices are missing? What tropes would we appreciate radio silence from? Where can we find glimmers of ourselves in older media? What media was surprisingly uplifting?

More questions and conversations to come during the meeting to be sure.

Silly Question: What is one thing kept in your living space you want to be more visible in the GQC space (or Chicago, or the world depending on comfort)?
Wednesday, March 8th, 7:00pm to 9 pm 
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.

Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Your Fave is Problematic

For background, we're talking about the phenomenon Know Your Meme frames as follows:

“Problematic Fave” is an expression used to describe popular celebrities or fictional characters that have been accused of some form of prejudice or bigotry"
 - Know Your Meme
     Last Open Topic ended up centering around community; how we frame who it consists of, what obligations and benefits it carries, how to define it, and more. One angle of it was how to handle when one finds someone who shares an aspect of one's identity to be disagreeable. It's disappointing when someone I look up to or identify strongly with says/does something specifically bigoted, and I'm not always sure what to do about it. Some people handle this by boycotting work that the person is involved in, like when people avoided seeing the movie Ender's Game because it was based on a book written by a raging homophobe. 

     Worse, sometimes I like the bigoted thing. The music artist Ke$ha has a cissexist transphobic song called "Grow a Pear" in which the pre-chorus asserts that dating a man with an internally based reproductive system is out of the question and misogynistically mocks the presumably cis guy for not performing masculinity according to the narrator's standards. It's extremely offensive, perpetuates a lot of ideas that have caused me personal harm, and on three of my work out playlists. Eep!

     So Wednesday night we'll discuss how we handle when something or someone we care about is bigoted, and I look forward to hearing everyone's perspectives. This is a topic I expect people to get to use their "blinkers" more often for, to give a heads up on the nature of the bigoted thing before talking about it in more detail. 

The topic for next week is "Voice and Speech"!



Wednesday, February 22nd, 7:00pm to 9 pm 

Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.

Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Self Worth

This week we are talking about self worth! What does a journey towards self worth look like? Where are places we can find worth within ourselves? What do we have agency over in order to increase our self worth or self esteem? What is the difference between self worth, self esteem, self respect, self confidence, and dignity? Are there any others self perceptions? Are there some journey's which are easier than others? In a world that often wants to deny that alternative gender experiences even exist, how do we navigate self worth? These kind of questions and more are the things we will be tackling this week.

silly question: "what is one picture you have created, by camera or art supplies, that you would frame on your wall? Alternatively what is a social media post you would frame?"
Wednesday, February 1st, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Monday, January 23, 2017

Making Our Own Community Care Documents

There are many different reasons to write up a community care document. Maybe you are tired of people around you suggesting the same tired refrain's of "just eat well and exercise" and want to write down what kind of suggestions you are actually looking for. Maybe there is a disconnect between what needs to be done and what you can get done on your own. Maybe there are some instances when communication gets difficult and you need to have something written down already to hand a person without having to think very hard.

Whatever the case may be, we will be having a workshop to help all of us come up with a framework and rough sketch of our own community care needs. No need to share with one another if we don't want to. We will all be on our own journey's figuring out what this document will be for, who the document will be for, and what kind of stuff we should put into the document. Come with some means of taking notes (and please bring extra writing utensils if you have them. Some paper will be provided)

The silly question is: "Who is a character or universe you will often imagine yourself in?"
Wednesday, January 25th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Asking for help

Often when the world feels overwhelming and having to add even the smallest of responsibilities becomes near impossible we can forget that others might not feel this way. We forget that there might be someone out there not just willing to help, but eager to do so. We forget that our friends might have different access to resources than ourselves and might be willing to share those resources. This week we talk about asking for help. How to do so. When to do so. Strategies we may have. Let's share the insights we have learned with each other. Here will be our first step in our asking for help journey.

The silly question is: "Imagine you are being rewarded with a cool sticker. What did you do this week to get the sticker?"
Wednesday, January 11th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

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