Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Arts and Crafts Fest/Parte de arte y manualidades


Join Genderqueer Chicago, an inclusive community group that creates safe spaces for thinking and talking about gender, for an arts and crafts party. We'll have some art supplies available, but please feel free to bring your own for writing, drawing, friendship bracelet-making, and other crafty endeavors. Whether you want to work on an ongoing project, try your hand at a new craft, or indulge your inner child, we welcome you to come out and make new friends.

Please do not bring paints, as this material is not allowed in the library where we are holding the event.

This event is all-ages and family-friendly!

Date:
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Time:
6:00pm - 8:00pm
Location:
Logan Square Library/Biblioteca de Logan square
Street:
3030 W. Fullerton Avenue, 60647

Genderqueer Chicago, un grupo incluyente de la comunidad que crea espacios seguros para pensar y hablar sobre la experiencia humana en el género, les invita a una convivencia de manualidades. Tendremos algunos materiales disponibles. Puedes traer tu propio material para escribir, dibujar, hacer una pulsera o cualquier otras atre manual. Si usted quiere trabajar en un proyecto que no a terminado, empezar un proyecto nuevo, o divertir a su niño interior, venga a hacer nuevos amigos.

Por favor no traiga pinturas, pues no son permitidas en la biblioteca donde llevaremos acabo el evento.

Este evento es para todas las edades y para la familia!

Finding My Own Gender Identity

By Anonymous

I grew up as the littlest sister in a family of three. My older sibling Sam came along a couple of years before me, and I looked up to Sam in every way. I had the typical little sister syndrome. I wanted to act, look and be like Sam. Sam played softball so I did. Sam agreed with the Democratic Party so I did, and so on.

When Sam went to high school, and I was still in Junior High, Sam left the house before me, and because of after school activities, Sam came home after me. So every day, I would raid Sam’s closet. And I would wear Sam’s jeans and shirts to school. I remember being three inches shorter and a little stouter, but sliding those clothes on after Sam left each day and off again before Sam came home.

In college, when I met my husband, neither of us dressed very fashionably. I wore flannel or plaid shirts most days with cargo pants, while he had tape holding his glasses together. Over the years, he started wearing glasses without tape, and I discovered that I liked heels and pink, a lot. And now, we both tease each other constantly about the tomboy he met, and the complete nerd I met. I’d never put much thought into what changed inside of me, although my husband often asks me what made me stop dressing in flannel.

That is until recently, when Sam came to visit my family, and I finally confessed to Sam that when Sam was at school, I stole Sam’s clothes. And I explained to Sam how much I do and have always looked up to Sam. Then, in an instant, my whole view of myself changed. I had the realization that for most of my life until my 20s, I based my own gender identity on my transgendered older sibling’s. I spent my life dressing and looking to fashion advice from Sam, and Sam didn’t identify as female.

And so, somewhere in our 20s, Sam realized that Sam didn’t identify as female, and I realized that I did. Here we were, each on our own, allowed to finally decide for ourselves what we felt like inside. Sam’s insides screamed one thing, and mine screamed very loudly, “Pink, I love pink! Put me in pink heels, please!”

Monday, April 26, 2010

One Big Happy Community? Safe Space Discussion, This Wednesday!


Join us for a safe space discussion about community- what it is, where we find out, and how we keep it comfy!

Affinity Community Services
57th and Woodlawn, Unitarian Church, Garden Level
7pm-8:30


GqC is open to any and everyone wanting to talk about gender. Reporters/ researchers should refrain from attending professionally but can e-mail genderqueerchicago@gmail.com for inquiries.

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Support Group for Partners of Transfolk is Starting Up!


Come this May, partners of trans people will have a new space to flesh out some of the challenges of navigating relationships and navigating community perceptions.

Starting on May 6th, "Partners in Transition" will be meeting each Thursday from 7- 8:30pm at Howard Brown. From the description:

This [group] will provide a space for women and men currently in a relationship with an individual who identifies on the trans- spectrum (including FTM, MTF, gender queer, etc). Topics of discussion will include: identity, communication, gender privilege, community, sexuality, culture and support systems.... Guest speakers will present on health, wellness and legal issues.

"Partners in Transition" is a collaborative effort between Howard Brown Health Center and The Chicago Women's Health Center. For more information or to sign-up, call Audra Marks at 773-935-6126 x303.

(Please note: gay cupcake is irrelevant)

Friday, April 23, 2010

Fabulousness: Not Optional

By: J.S.

As my outward gender tacks ever more femme, I have found that I can only pull it off if I can be ever more (for lack of a better word) fabulous about it.

What's fabulousness? It's just going out there and saying hey, I love myself and I'm beautiful and I dress and act how I please. Oh yeah, and also 'hey look at me!'

This has been tough for me, a guy who was socialized as 100% dude in a heteronormative environment. But it is rewarding -- if you are completely accepting and open about yourself, people pick up on it, and it's what creates a wake of acceptance about you. And acceptance is what makes it easier for other sexual and gender variant folks out there to come out. Fabulousness has made it easier for me to create a positive reality about me, in addition to being totally fun.

So rock those pink jeans, bright jewelry or big hairstyle: you're fabulous.

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Reproductive Justice for Girls and Transgender Young Women

Reproductive Justice By and For Girls and Transgender Young Women Impacted by the Sex Trade and Street Economies

A Lecture by Cindy Ibarra
Communications Coordinator
Young Women's Empowerment Project
Chicago, IL

Tuesday, April 27, 2010
12:30 - 1:30pm
L272 - Department of OB/GYN
University of Chicago
5841 S. Maryland Ave.

To learn more about the Young Women's Empowerment Project, click here.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Strength in Numbers- This Wednesday!


A safe space discussion about community, queer family, and the solidarity of strangers.

Join us this Wednesday for our weekly safe-space meeting.

The Gerber/Hart Library
1127 W. Granville (Red Line Granville Stop)
7-8:30pm


Genderqueer Chicago is an inclusive community, welcoming anyone who wants a place to talk about personal issues with gender/identity. Researchers and reporters are asked not to attend safe space meetings in their professional capacity, but may contact us at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com.

Saturday, April 17, 2010

Arts and Crafts Fest/Parte de arte y manualidades


Join Genderqueer Chicago, an inclusive community group that creates safe spaces for thinking and talking about gender, for an arts and crafts party. We'll have some art supplies available, but please feel free to bring your own for writing, drawing, friendship bracelet-making, and other crafty endeavors. Whether you want to work on an ongoing project, try your hand at a new craft, or indulge your inner child, we welcome you to come out and make new friends.

Please do not bring paints, as this material is not allowed in the library where we are holding the event.

This event is all-ages and family-friendly!


Date:
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Time:
6:00pm - 8:00pm
Location:
Logan Square Library/Biblioteca de Logan square
Street:
3030 W. Fullerton Avenue, 60647


Genderqueer Chicago, un grupo incluyente de la comunidad que crea espacios seguros para pensar y hablar sobre la experiencia humana en el género, les invita a una convivencia de manualidades. Tendremos algunos materiales disponibles. Puedes traer tu propio material para escribir, dibujar, hacer una pulsera o cualquier otras atre manual. Si usted quiere trabajar en un proyecto que no a terminado, empezar un proyecto nuevo, o divertir a su niño interior, venga a hacer nuevos amigos.

Por favor no traiga pinturas, pues no son permitidas en la biblioteca donde llevaremos acabo el evento.

Este evento es para todas las edades y para la familia!

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Ready or Not

By Dane Z. Bauer

I fished my gender out of the discard pile. It was buried under a leotard, a Cabbage Patch doll with Sharpie tattoos, and the corpse of Judy Garland. It had glitter stuck to it, and a pair of patent leather shoes. I brushed the sparkles away, junked the Mary Janes, and took it home. After a week of sitting on my bookshelf, my gender spoke to me for the first time. “You’ll do,” she said, “after a little fixing.”

For awhile, my gender was a construction site. I needed a helmet and work gloves to feel safe around her. She mangled my assumptions with a crowbar, threw books at me like bags of cement, and stuck a razor in my hand. She pursed her lips at my body and offered an appraisal – the fingernails are a good length, but some other bits don’t work. When I said my gender made me shave my armpits, the feminists looked at me funny. I kept my carpenter pants and flannel. My gender thinks they’re cute, though she often says “It looks comfortable, but it’s not quite you, sweetie.”

These days, my gender is fat, pretty, and bossy. She’s va-va-voom and a cast iron skillet tucked into red cotton boxer briefs. Jewelry points to my cleavage like a new discovery. She helps me flirt. Other queers don’t recognize me as kin until she comes out to play – see, honey, I’m as much a performance as you are. I’m just sneakier. Look at all the people who can’t see me, so blinded by my shine. Look how fast you found me. Let’s play.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Free Agents II

by anonymous

It was the first warm night of the year.
“God… you look like a boy…” ze sighed, probing me with hir eyes. Ze
looked over the lines of my flat-bound chest. “You look really hot,”
ze concluded. I stayed silent, nodded my thanks as I flushed and
looked at the ground. We were standing in an alley, smoking
cigarettes, taking a break from the loud bar.
“Do I look hot?” ze asked, being uncharacteristically hesitant.
“Yeah. You look hot,” I replied. This was true; I noticed my
attraction to hir as I spoke.
“I’m wearing a dress.”
“I see. It’s nice,” I said, realizing I didn’t usually see hir wearing
dresses; hir style was usually more urban warrior; bike pants, punk t-shirt,
and a military cap. But tonight ze was wearing
a red silk kimono style dress. And makeup. And heels. I was curious.
“My roommate made me put it on. I didn’t want to. It’s hers. I hate
wearing these things. I don’t like being pretty. I wish …” ze trailed
off. Then ze moved closer to me. “You look really hot,” ze repeated.
Ze asked me if I wanted to make out. I did. We did. Intensely. Our
passion was noble, strong, maybe slightly tragic. Tongues, hands,
hair, bodies.
It was the first warm night of the year.
We had moved to my car, parallel parked on a busy Chicago street. I
sat in the driver’s seat and ze was straddling me as we kissed. Our
activity was interrupted by the horn, hit by hir butt. We laughed.
“This isn’t much more private than the alley,” I noted.
“I’m not ready for any… of this…” ze said.
“Oh. I’m sorry.”
“No I mean… I’m not ready to admit that I’m not a girl.”
“Ok. You don’t have to,” I said, slightly surprised at this.
“But every time I see you, and you’re so free… I don’t know. I don’t
know, I don’t know, I don’t know.”
“Me neither,” I replied. Our eyes caught and we both laughed. It was
true, though.
I don’t know, I don’t know, I don’t know.
I just knew that it was the first warm night of the year, and I looked
forward to more.

paint the town


Just a reminder, Genderqueer Chicago is still collecting art supplies for TYRA, the Trans Youth Resource and Advocacy program sponsored by Howard Brown and Illinois Gender Advocates. If you have any supplies, paper or colored pencils or tape or scissors or markers or (dare I say it?) glitter, bring them to any of our upcoming Safe Space meetings. TYRA is a fantastic program that is struggling hard to help out trans youth in our community, so please please please help us support this amazing community service!

Saturday, April 10, 2010

XXY: Showing Info and Movie Review


XXY is a coming of age story about an intersexed youth in Argentina, and you have the opportunity to see it for free at SAIC on Monday, April 12 @ 6 p.m.! If you’re on the fence about going, then check out this synopsis and review by GQC’s own Andre Perez…

Synopsis:
The story unfurls as fifteen-year old Alex and hir family figure out hir intersex status. The film explores the dynamics as the family tries to figure out how to “deal” with this discovery. Alex sets off navigating hir changing relationship with hir family, hir complicated gender identity, and hir emerging sexuality in this disorienting context.

Review:
Even after taking into account the recent proliferation of visibility afforded to transgender people in popular media, few filmmakers or media producers have attempted to portray the realities of living as a person who is intersexed. XXY is a compassionate rendering of an ill-understood experience. As such it poetically conveys the clumsiness, the ambivalence, and the confusion of first encounters and shifting familial relationships. Somewhat sentimental in tone, it’s pace can seem slow to an American audience. However, your patience will pay off if you are a fan of artsy independent movies, stories built from emotionally rich situations, or nuanced coming of age stories.

Dis Your Phoria: Let's Talk About Bodies


What do you do when your body image throws you into a genderfunk? Join us this Wednesday for a discussion about hair, fat, skin, muscle, and all of those wonderful human tissues that dictate body dysphoria, euphoria, and the ways we relate to our gender identities.

Wednesday, 7 PM
Affinity Community Services
5650 S. Woodlawn, Garden Level

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Come Support Affinity This Saturday!


Affinity Community Services (57th and Woodlawn) has been providing us free space and tremendous support over these last few months. It's our turn to give back!

Affinity's $15 for 15 Launch Party on Saturday, April 10, 3pm at Affinity. The launch party is their official kick-off to announce our $15 for 15 Campaign which will run through the end of the year. Misty DeBerry, an award winning actor, playwright, and poet will emcee for the afternoon, which will also feature some of Chicago's most talented spoken word artists and musicians.

As part of $15 for 15, Affinity is asking constituents, supporters, families, and friends to give in multiples of $15 in honor of our 15th year and to also get 15 people they know to contribute to the campaign. Incentives and exciting give-aways will be awarded throughout the year to encourage people to be part of the giving circle.

Don't have the cash? No worries. Come out anyways. No one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Monday, April 5, 2010

Got Gender? Send us a Blog!


This blog thrives because community members contribute to it. We're always welcoming submissions in the form of poetry, prose, fictions, theory, visual art, video, music, etc. that deal with gender to share with the entire community.

You do not have to identify as transgender or genderqueer to submit.
You don't have to reside in Chicago, either.

E-mail your submission to: genderqueerchicago@gmail.com

Please include a title for your work and a name you want to publish under (anonymous is okay, but please specify).

No work that is copyrighted. Anything deemed offensive (racist, sexist, classist etc.) will not be posted.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

North again! for Relationships and Sex


Whether they change us, challenge us, or keep us going, relationships shape all of our lives. Sometimes gender ain’t no thang but often it is. So how has your exploration of gender affected your relationships (romantic and otherwise)? How have your concerns and interests changed as your identity has? What's confusing and exciting about sexuality in the world of the gender gifted?

Join us This Wednesday at The Gerber/ Hart Libary for a safe space discussion about relationships and sex.
7-9pm
1127 W. Granville

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Gender JUST Youth Protest for Safe & Affirming Education!


Date: Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Time: 4:00pm - 5:30pm
Location: In front of Chicago Public Schools Headquarters!
Street: 125 S Clark Street
Chicago, IL


CALLING ALL CPS YOUTH AND OUR ALLIES!

Are you tired of not having a say in your school? It's time for our voices to be heard!

Gender JUST's Youth-led Safe & Affirming Education Campaign Organizing Committee invite you to SPEAK UP AND SPEAK OUT!!

PROTEST FOR SAFE & AFFIRMING EDUCATION IN ALL CHICAGO PUBLIC SCHOOLS!

Tuesday, April 13th @ 4pm in front of the CPS Headquarters!

Contact schools@genderjust.org or 312-545-6871 for info on carpools for several CPS schools!!

For more info, call 312-545-6871 or email schools@genderjust.org or visit www.genderjust.org!

Gender JUST youth have met with CPS chief Ron Huberman several times - now we're calling on your support to demonstrate community momentum around these critical issues! Contact us for more info or to get involved!

Website graphics and design by Andre Perez