Saturday, January 29, 2011

Got an idea, something you want to talk about?

Email us!

We're always looking for meeting topic ideas that excite you. So, if you have one, let us know. Shoot, send us several!

Email genderqueerchicago@gmail.com with your meeting topic ideas and thoughts.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Genderfabulous Johnny Weir

Watch binary-breaking figure skater Johnny Weir speak out against skating commentators who poked fun at his gender expression:

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Jennifer Carr Talks About Her Trans Child

Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz, a Chicago Tribune reporter, has written a stunning piece about Jennifer Carr, whose child is transgender.

I could tell you more, but it's best that you just read it. Click here.

With <3<
K.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Need to Change Your Name? TJLP Can Help!


The good folks at TJLP will help you change your name, file fee waivers, and navigate a complicated system that is not always trans-friendly. See the flyer above for contact information!

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Open Topic Discussion THIS WEDNESDAY


Join us this Wednesday for an OPEN TOPIC safe space discussion at Access Living.

ACCESS LIVING Conference Room
115 W. Chicago Ave.
Wednesday, Jan. 26
7pm-8:15pm

Meetings are welcoming and inclusive of people of all identities and abilities. Researchers and reporters are asked not to attend in their professional capacities but may contact genderqueerchicago@gmail.com for more information.

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Sometimes It's the Little Things...

Whether it's racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism or any other "ism," institutionalized oppression can be hard to see on a grand scale. But when we look at the little things--assumptions, offhand comments, advertisements--it's easier to identify the forces that privilege some groups over others.

The blog Microaggressions collects those small expressions of inequality that hint at something bigger.

Click here to see the blog and email Microaggressions at microaggressions@gmail.com to share your thoughts/experiences.

Warning: Some of the information and comments posted on this blog might be triggering.
-mm

Friday, January 21, 2011

Transmisogyny, cis people, violence

This awesome letter was posted to Twin Cities Indymedia about why cis women must find common cause with transfeminine people.

Check it out!


-K.

Thursday, January 20, 2011

My Trans Sexuality

By: Nym

So a friend of mine came to visit, and I was telling her about my sexuality, so I though I'd post about it on here.

I mainly (at least lately) identify as pansexual. I'm been tossing out the term asexual every now and they because that is part of how I feel ... I don't know if it's big enough or whatever.

It's been 8 years since I've physically been with anyone. 8 years bascially, since I've really done something with someone and felt okay about it. All the other times (twice) were with somebody I slightly knew but wasn't in a relationship with and with myself. In all those times, I felt horrible afterwards. And noing even happened. A girl tried to give me a hand job in a theater once, but couldn't get me hard, let alone cum. I don't know if that's because I wasn't in a committed relationship with them(most likely a factor) but also because I go into a sort of depression post orgasm.

As long as I can remember, after orgasm, my body doesn't ... I don't know, calm down? My heart beat is still high, even 5 minutes afterwards, even though I don't feel anything anymore. And I end up hating myself, which doesn't help. And now since I've been on hormones for a year and a half, my orgasms last maybe 2 seconds and that's it. There's no distance anymore. And I don't release anything(which is good on a cleanup level) but ... It just seems like it's pointless. There's no pleasure. No sustanance.

And I've hated e male orgasm and never thought of it as an actual orgasm. I knew that female orgasms were somehow different, and enveloped the entire body and were earth shattering. And ... I never got that ... I got a few jerks in my groin and that was it. It never went through my entire body. It never moved. It was centered in my groin, if not outside my body down there. I hated it. I hated myself for masturbating. I hated receiving somewhat that was barely pleasure from my down there.

Ever since I was little, I knew I was different from boys and girls, but I didn't know what it was. I though girls had penises too. And eventually they would become vaginas (once I saw porn and saw that women didn't have penises). And the only thing I could specifically label and knew, is that I wanted a vagina. I knew that I wanted to pee sitting and didn't care for the idea of peeing standing. I wanted an orgasm. An actual orgasm. I wanted to bleed. I wanted a female down there. But that's all I knew. That's all I could put into words/label.

I never did have sex. Partially because I always wanted to wait until marriage and in one really big relationship of mine ... my partner lost their virginity to someone else and got pregnant. And so I just started to associate sex with betryal. I get uncomfortable when people talk about sex. I worked with rape victims. And I hated my own sex and desires for sex. I only got in relationships with people online, so sex would never be a possibility. And I still feel that way. When a close friend of mine (who I already knew had a baby) mentioned something referring to her having sex, I started feeling really bad, like I was betrayed.

When I think of myself with a vagina, I don't know if I'd even be comfortable with my down there sexually ... I think of vibrators and I still feel uncomfortable. I know I want one more than anything, but ... I don't know if I'd even be comfortable using it for anything sexually. Even with boy parts, aside from two girls trying to give me hand jobs, nobody has ever done anything down there. And even as it is, I don't think I'd want anybody too. And as for somebody else's down there ... I don't know. I've never been with somebody who had a penis. And when I think about interacting with a vagina, I jump to the conclusion that I like(d) it. But when I think back ... I don't remember if I ever got pleasure from it. The last girls I gave oral to, I don't remember receiving any pleasure what so even. I remember being slightly turned on from them being naked/semi naked ... But that's it. I still felt horrible after the experience. And never did anything else with them again.

So there's part of me that's 100% content with not doing anything with somebody's or my own down there. I don't know (at least not since I started hormones) if I'd even be comfortable doing something to somebody's down there. I just ... I don't know ... There's part of me that's disgusted at the idea ... But I don't know ... If we'd get to a point where we'd be super comfortable with eachother ... I don't know ...

And then there's the part of me that loves holding hands and cuddling and kissing and biting and hickies. And kissing still turns me on more than anything. And I miss that ... And still want it ... And I've still never had anything done to my boobs, so I don't even know how I'd be with somebody with my upper half. *shrugs* And I don't know enough about being asexual ... To know whether or not I really am ... Or how/if being in a loving committed relationship would effect me ... *sigh* and I want that ... And I want to be with someone ... But ... I don't want to not be able to fulfill them ...

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Leslie Feinberg Speaks Out, Estranged Relative Responds

Leslie Feinberg has published a letter to the community and asked for help circulating it. The letter accuses Feinberg's estranged birth sibling of co-opting Feinberg's life story into a young-adult novel.

Who is the relative in question? Catherine Ryan Hyde, who wrote Pay it Forward, among other things.

You can read Leslie's letter here:
http://www.lambdaliterary.org/features/01/19/leslie-feinberg-catherine-hyde/


And because I'm a journalist and feel obligated, Catherine Ryan Hyde's response is here, too:
http://www.catherineryanhyde.com/blog/2011/1/14/in-response-to-a-recent-issue.html

You decide,
K.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Reminder: GqC Gets Crafty THIS THURSDAY

Join Genderqueer Chigo for some arts and crafts fun at the Logan Square Library THIS THURSDAY! We'll have some art supplies available, but please bring some to share if you can! Whether you want to work on an ongoing project, try your hand at a new craft, or indulge your inner child, we welcome you to come out and make new friends.

Thursday, January 20th
5pm-8pm
Logan Square Library (3030 W. Fullerton)

Please do not bring paints or glitter, as these materials are not allowed in the library.

This event is all-ages and family-friendly!

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Navigating Gender: A Safe Space Discussion


How does your gender identity shift and change as you age? Sometimes it changes throughout the years, throughout the seasons or even throughout the day. How have these changes impact your life or altered the way you think about gender? Once you hit one of those forks in the road, do you ever get a little bit lost?

Join us for what will surely be a mind-boggling and enlightening safe space discussion this Wednesday!

Wednesday, January 19
7pm-8:15pm
Gerber/Hart Library (1107 W. Granville)

People of all ages and abilities are encouraged to attend! Reporters are asked not to attend in their professional capacities, but may contact genderqueerchicago@gmail.com for more information.

Friday, January 14, 2011

Flashback

By: M

Flashback.

I'm in my second grade classroom.
I can remember the exact room, lit with an orange glow of midday from windows directly across from me.
The playground is visible on a hill outside.
I'm sitting at a round table with several girls who were in my class.
We're about eight, I'd say.
Perhaps less.
We're talking about something, I can't recall what.
I make some kind of stupid comment about my gender.
I remember the embarrassment flushing my face,
the shadow of the coat closet directly behind me seeming more inviting than the table of girls before me.
I'm almost close enough to the closet to be inside of it already.

One of them asks something.
I remember the reply I gave clearer than the question.
I squirm in the red plastic chair I'm seated in as she asks, accusingly.

"What, you want to be a girl? Are you gay?"

"No... I just... think it would be... easier...."

I trail off and look down at my hands, trying to change the subject.

That's all I now remember from second grade.


Thursday, January 13, 2011

Love/Hate


Check out this TimeOut Chicago article to learn what city-dwellers love (and hate) about being queer in Chicago.

Sunday, January 9, 2011

The Great Clothing Crisis! Safe Space Discussion this Weds.


Whether you're gender-funny or just fashionably awkward, sometimes a peek into the closet can be grounds for a total breakdown.

Clothing and fashion are tricky topics for a good many, especially since they're often the first thing people study when they're trying to read our genders.

Join us for a safe space discussion on the agonies (and joys) of accessorizing (or the choice not to).

This Wednesday Access Living (115 W. Chicago) 7-8:15pm (we start and end on time)

Genderqueer Chicago welcomes ALL people who want to think and talk about their genders, with the slight exception of researchers and reporters in their professional capacities (aka, we're not your homework...).

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Bathroom Project Gears Up to Launch!


This is the most exciting moment in our long gay history. Okay, maybe not the most exciting, but it's pretty big news!

Thanks to the generosity of an anonymous donor (as well as the generosity of lots of small donors as well as Berlin Nightclub), we have officially raised the necessary funds to print decals!

Now, we need your help!!! To learn more about the project, check out our Wikipage.

Shoot us an e-mail (tchicagobathrooms@gmail.com) if you are one of the following:
-a person who wants to help distribute decals (please include your name, neighborhood, availability, and the best way to reach you)
-an organization that wants to team up and get involved
-a business owner who wants to be part of the launch!

Are you ready? Let's get to work!

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Surviving Going Home

A little after the fact, I found this sweet little piece of advice on that ever-complicated decision of whether or not to return "home" when it's uncomfortable, and, if you do, how to survive it. This piece was written for the holidays, but I think it's relevant for a good many folks most of the time:
Surviving the Holidays- By Mr. Sexsmith

Enjoy,
K.

Monday, January 3, 2011

GqC Gets Crafty!


Join Genderqueer Chigo for some arts and crafts fun at the Logan Square Library! We'll have some art supplies available, but feel free to bring your own for writing, drawing, friendship bracelet-making, and other crafty endeavors. Whether you want to work on an ongoing project, try your hand at a new craft, or indulge your inner child, we welcome you to come out and make new friends.

Thursday, January 20th
5pm-8pm
Logan Square Library (3030 W. Fullerton)

Please do not bring paints or glitter, as these materials are not allowed in the library.

This event is all-ages and family-friendly!

Sunday, January 2, 2011

TRANSformative Art

Read about the most TRANSformative art of the year in this Huffington Post article. Want more? Check out this trailer for one of the recommended films, Assume Nothing:

self-love/self-care (your visions for the new year!): a safe space discussion


We may not all be inclined to choose a new years resolution but alas it is a new year and a "new" anything calls our attention to things that we may not have considered or thought about before. So, what ways are you thinking about self-love and self-care that will construct the new year, for better or for worse? And why is important? How is it important, to you and in your life? Join us this Wednesday, January 5th, 2011 for a safe space discussion.

7pm-8:15pm
Gerber-Hart Library
(1127 W. Granville)

Meetings are welcoming and inclusive of people of all identities and abilities. Researchers and reporters are asked not to attend in their professional capacities but may contact genderqueerchicago@gmail.com for more information.

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